Obvious

Ok, Ok...I know. It's really pretty obvious that at least one of the people discussed in my previous post was me. I admit it.

In case you're wondering which one - I'm C. I've been married to "A" for a little over a year now and have been watching "B" make one HELL of a fool of herself over my husband.
I've watched her make pass after pass at my man and seen them all fail. They were all pathetic but this latest one is the worst: lying her ass off about "A" expecting her to carry on their affair after we married. What a crock.
He never even looked at her after we started DATING let alone after we married. He's the original "one woman man".
You'd think that after 2 years she'd know him better than that!!
Anyway, I guess there's only so much rejection B could take before she started acting like the proverbial 'woman scorned' and found someone stupid enough to buy her lame ass lies. What I'd like to know is if she actually believes them!!!
This woman is all about competition. She's gone to a lot of trouble to keep up with the Jones':
"A" is the leader of a pretty large Pagan group so naturally "B" has to become one.
"A" is in prison ministry, "B" is in prison ministry.
"A" does PPD events, "B" jumps on the bandwagon too.
She (for a while) even had the same teacher! (she messed that up though & has gotten some schyster who doesn't even believe in the degree system to give her her third)
"A" has his Third degree, "B" has to have hers too. (can't have "A" pulling rank now can she?!?!?!)
"A" finds, dates and marries another witch...(yep, you guessed it, so does "B" even if she has to create one herself)

However there has been a new development: she finally found a way to one up "A"..."B" has even gone to the extent to have her new man given ranks which he has not earned. "D" is now a Third Degree too! (isn't that special??!?!?!?!)
Oh, I'm sure that a few of you will think I need to lighten up because "D" may actually have earned it... but you'd be wrong. You'd have to see him in action to know what I'm talking about but considering that the man was barely capable of functioning in a circle in March of this year and was a total embarrassment at someone else's degreeing ritual you're going to have a hard time convincing anyone of us who were there of that.
Still not convinced? Ok, try this on for size- the recipient of the new degree that night was his teacher and later asked our hostess to give "D" his degrees...all at once! This was the first time that she had ever met "D" and the lady was less than impressed. She turned the guy and "D" down.
But, knowing "B" the way we do, we weren't exactly stunned when she got the same guy who agreed to do her Third (with no study) to jump "D" from First to Third at the same ritual.
So, now we have a guy who in less than a year has been given all three if his Degree's!!!!

In the event that you're not familiar with the Wiccan Degree system, there are three degrees that a practitioner can achieve. Each degree is given after certain levels of skill and criteria are satisfied. Reaching Third is something that rightfully should take a person years of hard work and study in order for him/her to grow, learn and adjust to not only the differences in the levels of power you work with but also the life changes that go hand in hand with those Degree's.
All things considered, you almost have to feel sorry for poor "D". His woman has been steadily chasing another man for most of the time they've been together, she's turning him into a surrogate for "A" and now just a few months after she handfasts this guy, "B" is ready to turn his life upside down by claiming that she and my husband carried on an adulterous affair.

And all she has to say for herself is that "A should have been more careful who he told about us."
Well honey...I guess that makes it all right then doesn't it? You feel the need to get all your so called "truths" out into the open? You go girl!
You go on ahead and hurt two people who have never done anything to you because you just can't get past the fact that "A" broke it off with you and didn't want you back.
Damn girl...don't you think that it's time you put on your big girl panties and got the f*** on with your life ?!?!?!

Trouble in Paradise?

Don't you believe it!!!

There will always be people who just can't stand to see former
loves/lovers/spouses happy once those people have moved on after a
break up. People who decide to twist the truth about when a breakup
occurred, what happened after it and even come out and lie about said
former lover sleeping with them after that lover had begun seeing
someone else.

"But why?" you ask. Excellent question, says I.

I have my theory and it goes like this:

We’ll call the parties involved here A, B, C & D.

Two people, A&B, meet and are attracted. Person A is free, B is not. They have a turbulent 2 year affair before A, tired of the lies, sneaking around and all the usual BS that goes on with a married lover tells B that he wants a commitment (ie: leave your spouse, be with me). Doesn't happen though and the B hems and haws and lies so much to A that he decides to end the relationship.
Understandably A is upset and disillusioned for a while but then meets someone new- C. C is also single and makes A very happy. They fall deeply in love and spend all their time together. They move in together and make plans to marry.

Sadly, B doesn't understand this and persists in trying to get her former lover back into her life: emails, dropping little hints on her blog and resorts to a phone call implying that she is finally getting a lawyer now & is ready to make the life change that had been requested by A so long ago.

Please let me stress at this time that B is doing this without any encouragement from A whatsoever. They have not seen each other in any thing but social settings since their break up. They have not been alone, have not had sex and have, in fact, barely even spoken since the break up, and not at all since A and C started dating.

SO…EVEN KNOWING THAT A HAS MOVED ON, HAVING BEEN TOLD BY MUTUAL FRIENDS THAT HE'S WITH SOMEONE ELSE & EVEN HAVING MET C- B TRIES TO GET HIM BACK.

Happily, B fails but the point is that she tried.

B continues to try after the happy couple marries; little things really, hardly more than petty annoyances, but enough to qualify as making passes. Understandably, the whole thing has C angry and has seriously upset A. In fact, A is at a loss as to how to handle the situation...what should he do? How can he get this across to B? Should he be mean? Then again, why should he have to be mean to B? Why doesn't she understand that he's moved on?
Eventually, A gets a phone call from B’s NEW LOVER…D (FYI folks, B still has not divorced her husband) and A is asked why B won't commit to D and is also
asked for advice about how to deal with her.

If A was uncomfortable before, this new development makes him three times that. He tells D that this is none of his business and gets off the phone.

Months pass with no contact (FINALLY a little peace!) and then A & C are invited to a get together where B and D will be also. Things are ok until B corners A. Under the guise of talking about something a mutual acquaintance had done recently, B corners A and keeps getting into his ‘personal space’ until he finally puts a huge recliner between them, making panicked looks for his wife who’s standing across the room and seeing what’s happening.

Six months later, B is finally divorced and is ‘engaged’ to D. Events occur that have B going for A’s throat because she deliberately chose to misunderstand a congratulations A made for her attaining a recent spiritual goal. She has a (former) mutual friend of her & A’s who knows enough if what happened between the two of them to spout some very believable lies….as long as you don’t know A, B or C personally.

In a nutshell?

B has said that A was still sleeping with her when he and C started seeing each other and has allowed that third party to state on the internet that SHE dumped A because he was expecting her to continue their affair after he married C.

Now…I have to ask you. If you were B, what better way to get back at the man who spurned you & your advances not just once but several times over the course of a year and a half than to try to make his wife and friends believe that he was cheating on her from the time they met and had continued even after they had married ?!?!?!

After her initial anger over what B has said, C thinks that this makes NO sense. She knows her man and he’s not the type. Besides, she’s watched B make a fool of herself over A on numerous occasions and knows there’s nothing there. C doesn’t wonder about As fidelity after they started dating, after they were married or any time in between. As stated earlier, they had spent all their time together and A has always had a reputation for being a ‘one woman man’. Everyone who knows him knows that about him.

So what does B stand to gain aside from causing trouble in paradise? Is she pissed because A won’t cheat on his wife even though he had once helped B cheat on her ex?

Here’s some food for thought: if things are as B has really said they are, if the story B has put out there for public consumption is true, if A really had thought to cheat on his new wife with B then why wouldn’t she just talk to C?

Most women I’ve talked to about this have said that if they were B and a former lover had tried what B accuses A of, then they would have gone directly to the wife!

Can we assume then that things are not as they seem? To my mind the words and actions just don’t add up.

Please feel free to post your thoughts…the saga will continue!