Trouble in Paradise?

Don't you believe it!!!

There will always be people who just can't stand to see former
loves/lovers/spouses happy once those people have moved on after a
break up. People who decide to twist the truth about when a breakup
occurred, what happened after it and even come out and lie about said
former lover sleeping with them after that lover had begun seeing
someone else.

"But why?" you ask. Excellent question, says I.

I have my theory and it goes like this:

We’ll call the parties involved here A, B, C & D.

Two people, A&B, meet and are attracted. Person A is free, B is not. They have a turbulent 2 year affair before A, tired of the lies, sneaking around and all the usual BS that goes on with a married lover tells B that he wants a commitment (ie: leave your spouse, be with me). Doesn't happen though and the B hems and haws and lies so much to A that he decides to end the relationship.
Understandably A is upset and disillusioned for a while but then meets someone new- C. C is also single and makes A very happy. They fall deeply in love and spend all their time together. They move in together and make plans to marry.

Sadly, B doesn't understand this and persists in trying to get her former lover back into her life: emails, dropping little hints on her blog and resorts to a phone call implying that she is finally getting a lawyer now & is ready to make the life change that had been requested by A so long ago.

Please let me stress at this time that B is doing this without any encouragement from A whatsoever. They have not seen each other in any thing but social settings since their break up. They have not been alone, have not had sex and have, in fact, barely even spoken since the break up, and not at all since A and C started dating.

SO…EVEN KNOWING THAT A HAS MOVED ON, HAVING BEEN TOLD BY MUTUAL FRIENDS THAT HE'S WITH SOMEONE ELSE & EVEN HAVING MET C- B TRIES TO GET HIM BACK.

Happily, B fails but the point is that she tried.

B continues to try after the happy couple marries; little things really, hardly more than petty annoyances, but enough to qualify as making passes. Understandably, the whole thing has C angry and has seriously upset A. In fact, A is at a loss as to how to handle the situation...what should he do? How can he get this across to B? Should he be mean? Then again, why should he have to be mean to B? Why doesn't she understand that he's moved on?
Eventually, A gets a phone call from B’s NEW LOVER…D (FYI folks, B still has not divorced her husband) and A is asked why B won't commit to D and is also
asked for advice about how to deal with her.

If A was uncomfortable before, this new development makes him three times that. He tells D that this is none of his business and gets off the phone.

Months pass with no contact (FINALLY a little peace!) and then A & C are invited to a get together where B and D will be also. Things are ok until B corners A. Under the guise of talking about something a mutual acquaintance had done recently, B corners A and keeps getting into his ‘personal space’ until he finally puts a huge recliner between them, making panicked looks for his wife who’s standing across the room and seeing what’s happening.

Six months later, B is finally divorced and is ‘engaged’ to D. Events occur that have B going for A’s throat because she deliberately chose to misunderstand a congratulations A made for her attaining a recent spiritual goal. She has a (former) mutual friend of her & A’s who knows enough if what happened between the two of them to spout some very believable lies….as long as you don’t know A, B or C personally.

In a nutshell?

B has said that A was still sleeping with her when he and C started seeing each other and has allowed that third party to state on the internet that SHE dumped A because he was expecting her to continue their affair after he married C.

Now…I have to ask you. If you were B, what better way to get back at the man who spurned you & your advances not just once but several times over the course of a year and a half than to try to make his wife and friends believe that he was cheating on her from the time they met and had continued even after they had married ?!?!?!

After her initial anger over what B has said, C thinks that this makes NO sense. She knows her man and he’s not the type. Besides, she’s watched B make a fool of herself over A on numerous occasions and knows there’s nothing there. C doesn’t wonder about As fidelity after they started dating, after they were married or any time in between. As stated earlier, they had spent all their time together and A has always had a reputation for being a ‘one woman man’. Everyone who knows him knows that about him.

So what does B stand to gain aside from causing trouble in paradise? Is she pissed because A won’t cheat on his wife even though he had once helped B cheat on her ex?

Here’s some food for thought: if things are as B has really said they are, if the story B has put out there for public consumption is true, if A really had thought to cheat on his new wife with B then why wouldn’t she just talk to C?

Most women I’ve talked to about this have said that if they were B and a former lover had tried what B accuses A of, then they would have gone directly to the wife!

Can we assume then that things are not as they seem? To my mind the words and actions just don’t add up.

Please feel free to post your thoughts…the saga will continue!